Message to the addict

My husband is an addict and when he first started to try and get clean he said something to me that has stuck with me. I call my husband, Big Daddy. Big Daddy said, Michele, all of us addicts don't wake up one day and say, “I think I will become an addict today and screw up my life." It wasn't until I understood what addiction is and how one becomes an addict that I understood and felt sympathy for him. Don't get me wrong, there are times when I want to punch him in the face.

Many people that have opinions about addicts have not taken the time to gain some knowledge about addiction. I like to call those people Republicans. ha ha just kidding. But the word I was going to use is not nice either so we will leave it at that.

Don't let anyone tell you that your addiction is your fault or that it's your choice. They are just uneducated about this subject and most of the time they are the ones that are making the choice to give an opinion that they know nothing about. I think those people that always have an opinion and have not done research on the subject  like to sound like they no something, but in reality they sound dumb as hell.

Addiction is not about you being a weak person, a bad person or not having the will power. Don't ever feel ashamed of your disease. Addiction is a disease and once you are addicted to whatever your drug of choice is your brain (scientifically proven) changes and when your brain changes, you change. So you can understand why some might think your this terrible person, it’s almost like a split personality, if someone makes you feel like this terrible person just tell them it’s not you its Frank. (Trying to add some humor there) I sometimes describe Big Daddy as two people because my Big Daddy without the drugs is not the same person on drugs. He's an ass on drugs but I do understand that he struggles everyday with his disease just as he does dealing with his kidney stones. I just wanted you and "Frank" to know that you’re not alone and there is help for your disease. That's where your choice comes in to play. 

 

R.I.P  Irvian Adam Singleton, Jr.

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